BFF Blog Post: TCG Conference Reactions

TCG at Playhouse Square in Cleveland, OH

Last month I attended the TCG 2015 conference with Sara (my arts admin grad school sister). I am still processing a lot of the information from those (really really jam-packed) days, but I loved it and wanted to share it with you. This was also the first time in almost a year Sara and I got to be in the same city so we decided to do a BFF blog post in honor of the occasion. We came up with some questions related to the conference and answered them independently. This is our way of comparing notes after having some time to think everything over.

Sara Kissinger is the Development Operations and Membership Coordinator at Baltimore Symphony Orchestra.

What was your favorite conference topic?

SARA: I was surprised to find that a lunch salon entitled “How Theater Makers Manage Family Life” was one of the most enlightening sessions I attended. We in the performing arts are givers – really. We give and give, in order to make others feel and react and reflect. We aren’t very good at taking – taking our lunch breaks, taking time off, taking care of ourselves. The discussion was a tapestry of flex time, parental responsibilities, family care, and overall wellness which illuminated a real need for attention to these areas of our lives. Be well, arts friends.

SOMMER: Burnout to Babies was probably the most engaging topic for me. Part of it is just coming out of grad school and seeing my peers struggle a lot with wanting to further their careers but also build a family. Our program was small but we had several different family circumstances, from already married with almost grown children to planning a wedding to having a baby during or immediately after the program…to single or in various levels of dating relationships.

Despite a lot of discussion in our grad program about career planning, how to manage a family within our career plans was never the focus. It was very much about which jobs to look for post-graduation, how to interview, how to negotiate salary. So actually discussing how to manage working from home and the idea of getting flex time for working late events gave me something to chew on. Those are actual strategies that I can use in the future as a manager to make sure employees are not forced to choose between working in theater and having a real life outside of it.

And there is life outside of working at a theater. There has to be, because if there isn’t how do we create relevant theater for our communities?

Why did you attend the conference?

SARA: Sommer brought the TCG conference to my attention, and I thought, “hey, that might be fun.” Best friends, theater nerds, Cleveland – what’s not to love? But when I started to think about what I might write in a quick essay to make my case for volunteering, it occurred to me that it was bigger than that. My inner philosopher and arts advocate wondered what I could learn from a few days of theater-world immersion that I could bring back to share with the classical music section of the arts sphere. Certainly there were things the disciplines could learn from each other, right? And that’s how an arts administrator currently fighting the good fight for classical music ended up at a fabulous theater conference.

SOMMER: Mostly, I miss theater people. They are my people. Connecting back into the theater community helps me to recharge my excitement for the work I do – because I see other people are excited for the work I do. Everyone that asked about my company gave me well-wishes and was intrigued by the mission. Not to say that is the only reason I attended, because my initial reason was to make sure I am keeping up with the current trends and topics relevant to other theaters, but that inclusion will certainly be the reason I go back.

What do you look forward to at future conferences?

SARA: One thing theater does especially well is bring to light issues of race, equality, and accessibility in ways that people feel safer starting to discuss them and better equipped to start to take action. I’d love to see more of this in ways that other performance art sectors can apply – I’m calling you out, classical music world. Dance has been doing an okay job recently (merde, Misty!), but let’s see more cross-disciplinary collaboration around this. Let’s get together. One of my favorite quotes from the entire conferences was this gem from Rhodessa Jones: “Politics don’t work. Religion is a bit too eclectic. But art… Art could be the parachute that carries us all.”

SOMMER: Assuming I get to return, I really look forward to continuing conversations and delving deeper into topics that are just beginning to be accepted as appropriate. Theater has always been at the forefront of change in our culture through exploration and discussion, and it is important to me to be a part of that discussion through my work at Flashback Theater Co.

What themes/trends did you take notice of because of the conference?

SOMMER: First, the trend of recognizing our culture’s tendency to excuse racism for some but not all. Second, there was an underlying theme of recognizing our individual privileges and looking for ways to use them to help those without the same privileges. (This is an overwhelming topic so I will save my expansion for another post.)

What struck you the most about the conference culture at TCG (as opposed to other conferences/networking events)?

Sommer and Sara at the GE Chandelier on Playhouse Square.

Sommer and Sara on Playhouse Square

SOMMER: It was surprising to me how easy it was to connect with people at TCG. It was so easy to introduce myself and all too often budding conversations were cut short by the next session beginning. Perhaps that is the result of finally being at a conference where I feel like I fit in. And TCG’s affinity groups helped that a lot. Having the opportunity to meet with other managing directors of small theaters was especially great. It was one of those “Finally! Someone gets it!” moments that I wanted to hold onto for as long as possible.

Submissive Language: Pledge to recognize it and stop undermining yourself!

Pledge to Recognize submissive language and stop undermining yourself

I’ve seen THREE articles in the past week or two about language women use that automatically puts us in a position of submission. Here are links:

New York TimesWhy Women Apologize and Should Stop – This article explains that women’s apologies are usually passive aggressive attempts at making someone else feel sorry, but rarely has that effect and often creates an inverse of the situation due to the unclear communication of the problem.

Business InsiderGoogle and Apple alum says using this one word can damage your credibility – The use of “just” by women is our way of asking permission. Permission to be included, to ask a request, or to make an apology for butting in to begin with.

Howlround Journal: Women Directors: Language Worth Repeating – Women directors often follow a note with an immediate undermining question such as “is that ok?” or “Does that make sense?” We think we are giving an opportunity for clarification but we are really giving the actor/designer an option to discount the note.

A friend also pointed out she recently read an article about women nodding at all things, while men only nod when they agree. Hmm.

I have already stopped apologizing in emails for things that I have no real reason to apologize for. It was hard at first – I had to go back and read drafts a couple of times to make sure I wasn’t apologizing or excusing myself in some way inadvertently. And trust me, ladies, you will see you do it to yourself a whole lot more than you think. And in ways that aren’t necessarily “I’m sorry” or “I apologize.” Giving reasons for why this or that happened in a particular way is not needed, especially if they were out of your control and the client/partner/whoever has no idea that it didn’t happen according to plan anyway.

As for the “just” article – I know I am guilty of this one. In fact, I’ve even used it in a joking manner blatantly because I realize that its exactly how I would say something to apologize for saying it WHILE saying it. And I continue to use it anyway. “I just work here.” “I just wanted to ask..” “I’d just like to see the draft of this before I’m asked to sign it.” It creates a meek encounter and its no wonder there are few results with this language. And it sets up follow ups to be apologetic in nature as well. How much more submissive could I be?

The Howlround piece really struck a chord with me, since it is about women directors in theater specifically. Am I guilty of undermining the notes I give to actors? Probably. But I am not going to apologize about it. Instead, I will tell you that moving forward I am going to be more conscious of the direction and instructions I give verbally. I encourage other women to do the same. We cannot continually undermine ourselves with our language (verbal or not)! Not only does it send mixed messages to the people we should be communicating most clearly with but it gives them easy outs.

In fact, as we adjust to our more powerful communication stance, keep in mind that what you say is what you are. (And you always thought it was what you eat, ha!) Check this out: Words can Change Your Brain

Talk to me in the comments! Have you inadvertently been using submissive language? What words or phrases have you found to put you in a position of power instead of submission?

Giving to an Indiegogo campaign

FbTC 1st Ever Production Indiegogo Campaign

As you likely know by now, I am in the middle of an Indiegogo campaign for Flashback Theater Co.’s 1st ever production! There have been a few questions about giving so I thought I’d take a few minutes to share a little more about how the campaign works. As always, though – if you have other questions please let me know! Comment, email or post to FbTC’s Facebook page – I will get back to you as quickly as I can.

Ways to give

There are two options to give your chosen amount. You can pick a “perk” which is a set amount and will get you some special access to behind-the-scenes content about the production. During the checkout process, you will have the option to add an additional amount to your perk amount so if you want to give a specific amount, you can pick a perk lower than that and add on the difference.  Alternatively, you can click the “Contribute Now” button and choose the amount you would like to give without receiving any perks.

Does sharing on Facebook or Twitter really help?

YES! It is especially important for you to share after you’ve contributed so that the people you share it with see that you value the campaign enough to give to it. Would you buy something from someone if they hadn’t bought one themselves? Probably not – and the same goes for donating.

Fees

Because FbTC is a fiscally sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, we do not lose any fees to Indiegogo. (YAY!) However, Fractured Atlas does take a 7% fee for processing the donation – which includes the credit card fees, which are typically in the 2-3% range. (If we were not a fiscally sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, Indiegogo would take a similar percentage.)

Where does the raised money go?

Fractured Atlas holds all funds raised for us, until we need to make a purchase (or be reimbursed for one.)

logoFlashback Theater Co is a sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, a non-profit arts service organization. Contributions for the purposes of Flashback Theater Co must be made payable to Fractured Atlas and are tax-deductible to the extent permitted by law.


 

If you have other questions, email them to me at sommer@flashbacktheaterco.org, or post in the comments below!